I’d like to validate you for keeping your hopes up.   I want to accept you unconditionally because you’ve kept your dreams alive.  I’d like to recognize you for the unique individual that you are.

Genuine validation is a blessing of acceptance that we give to one another.  Like gratitude, it’s a blessing that smiles on the giver perhaps even more so, than the receiver.   So thanks for allowing me to give you this gift of core, human validation.

In order to discover and engage your true calling you must accept validation of your individuality.   You have something special to express in a way that only you can express it. Validation accelerates career clarity.

This is one powerful way to get paid for who you are.

Another way to accelerate career clarity is to gather together in a community of mutual validation like this one. Soon I’ll be announcing details of a virtual Big Link Rally where you can breathe in the wonderful acceptance of your fellow men and women.

Don’t believe that small-thinking crap that there are no new ideas.  Your very existence blows that one out of the water.  Who you are proves that you are here to do something wonderful.

Somehow and in some unique way, your joy was meant to serve humanity or mother earth.  Keep at it.   Accelerate genuine validation in yourself and in others.  When you meet someone who in even a small way has shown the courage to be who they are – recognize them for it.

I’ve watched this delightful film five times and each time it moves me deeply.

What moves you to the point of authentic action?

My biggest surprise in this adventure of creating and promoting the Big Link Rally has been how challenging it’s been to get you on the phone to talk about your calling.

Everyone who has enrolled so far has spent some time with me in conversation. This is a big step that’s made much easier in forthright dialogue.   To birth a calling it’s essential to engage in frequent conversation with your authentic self. As your temporary coach, I fill the role of speaking as your calling, from the stronger side of you, so that you can hear more than your fears.

I asked myself.  ” What makes you hesitate?”  If I were promoting a conference for muscle car enthusiasts and you really cared about muscle cars, we would have already talked.  Many times.

Yet callings are different.  Even though we are called to serve others; the call feels very personal.  Callings are about faith, stepping into the unknown and being who you are.  I get that.

I understand that you’re afraid – that’s why we need to talk so you can appreciate another perspective.  Bouncing around in your own monkey mind is like trying to open a jar with your hands lathered in bacon grease.  Talking to yourself won’t make it easier.

So far it’s like I’m standing at the head of a classroom and you raise your hand to ask a question or make a comment.  Then I ask a question in return or simply ask that we talk about it after class and you run away never to be heard from again.

Callings are about engagement.   It’s best to engage with someone who cares about you.  My mission, to end vocational confusion and it’s accompanying under earning, qualifies me as someone who really cares about you.   In fact I can’t fulfill my calling without you.

So why do you hesitate?  I’d love to know.   I’m going to take some guesses below to see if I can calm your concerns and encourage you to engage in a powerfully authentic conversation all about you and your calling.

I know it seems a little silly that we have to drag you to the discussion that will change your life.   Don’t feel bad, some are led but most are dragged to their destinies.

My Guesses

Are you afraid you’ll end up being sold something? I’ll not do that. This conversation is about you and your calling.   If you’re a fit for the Rally you’ll be able to see that.  Like trying on jeans they either fit or they don’t. You’ll not be pressured to struggle into anything.

Are you afraid that I’ll ask a question you can’t yet answer? That could happen but I’ll not judge you in any way for where you are.  However the question you can’t answer because you don’t yet want to, is the very trail of crumbs that will lead you to your calling.

Is it because you don’t want to fly into Pittsburgh in January? I wouldn’t either unless this Rally is the only place I could get what I wanted. This excuse will be no good after January because then an invitation to my first virtual rally will be on the table.

Are you concerned that you’ll waste my time? You can’t waste my time.  How I spend it is my choice and since you’ve stepped up, you’re the person I most want to engage.  You’re more wasting your time by raising your hand and then running from the connection.

Are you afraid that we can’t talk because you don’t have enough money? This talk isn’t a consultation for sale.  It’s a sincere invitation to discuss your calling.  The money appears when the path is right and it doesn’t necessarily need to appear from you. (I’m offering generous partial scholarships and all you need to do is ask.)

Are you afraid to trust another with your dearest dreams and fears? Our conversation is confidential and you’ll leave feeling more empowered than you came.  You’ll trust yourself more after our talk because you’ll have received the gift of clarity.

Are you hesitant because the distance in hiding behind an online curtain means you really aren’t putting yourself out there? Are you concerned that by having a real conversation you might be compelled to actually do something about your calling? Callings are very big deals but they require ongoing, vigilant conversation, reflection, observation, discernment and decision.

Making the bold decision, to have a conversation with someone who cares about you and your calling, is the beginning of honoring your path.

You can’t follow a path that you won’t honor.

Are you concerned that I’m some religious nut who will push beliefs that are inauthentic to you? My calling process is a spiritual approach not a religious one.   The only requirement for this is your willingness to go within to find your own wisdom.  Your deep meaning most certainly isn’t found outside of your inner guidance so that’s the only pushing I do.   I strongly suggest that you go within in order to do it your way.

Or are you hiding behind the details and busyness of life while hoping you can use the holidays, family obligations or other excuses to pretend a while longer that you don’t have a calling?

That’s it folks.  I’m out of guesses. It’s your turn to come forth and tell the truth of where you are.

I know, the truth that sets you free will first piss you off.   However the lies that you hide behind will kill you.   It’s your call.  Let’s talk about it. 724-823-0317

We tend to think too absolutely.  It’s such a big deal to launch a business around the foundation of our true calling that we often hold back because we think it’s a matter of all or nothing.

We somehow imagine that if we’d really identified our calling we’d feel more fired up and confident.  Who says?  That hasn’t been my experience.  Even considering a true calling is frightening.

Why then do we put so much added pressure on the decision by insisting that we have to have every detail figured out before we make our move?

It’s more effective to ease into new engagements so we can get a feel for things and try them on for size.  It’s especially easier to ease gently into bold new enterprises.  But our monkey mind makes us think that we’ve got it have it all right now.

How’s that working for you?

It certainly hasn’t worked well for me.  I’ve learned that the market place pays us for completions.  So how are you ever going to get paid for something if you never begin?

What can you do about it?  You know that the delay of over-analyzing is costing you dearly.  You know that many of the reasons you hesitate, you’ve made up, in order to protect your most vulnerable self.

Here’s the bottom line.  If you really want to start that new business and enjoy the fulfillment and prosperity of true calling – you must begin as soon as you see an opening.

There is always a next step of something that you can do now.  If you don’t see your next step towards your calling and want to see it, take me up on my offer below.

I’m here to help. My mission is to end under-earning and vocational confusion.

The essence of my work as a true calling coach is clarity and action. Everything I do is designed to help you empower your core self and to increase the clarity of your calling.  Both authentic empowerment and clarity of calling cannot happen solely within your mind.

Engagement is the only thing that empowers and clarifies true calling.

That’s right just like riding a bike you’ve got to first get on the bike of your most likely calling and ride it around the block.  Only from actually living the experience of a calling will you see further into it and only after clarifying it will you feel the boost of power needed to realize it.

In other words, you must begin living your calling to see it more clearly and the enthusiasm for your calling cannot come without that clarity.

You know how you feel now while hesitating and confused.  Can you imagine what it will feel like to be prosperously rewarded for making a difference through your calling?

If you are ready to do something about it - attend the Big Link Rally in Pittsburgh on January 2.

At the rally you’ll discover/validate your calling and take action towards building a profitable business around it.  I guarantee it or I’ll refund all of your money.

Contact me here to set up a no obligation coaching session to determine your next calling step and be sure to ask about the current discount offer that expires on 11-27-09.

I’ve been thinking about you this morning.  I’ve been thinking about how much you really want to solve out of your work fulfillment and money challenges.

I truly want to help you end your confusion, suffering and dismay around work and money.   I want that for you from the bottom of my heart.

I want you to know that when certainty of calling appears – natural, abundant confidence and enthusiasm come along for the ride.   Everyone wants to work with folks who are delightfully high on life.

You too can be up for your work without having to get up for it.

I was thinking back to my years of struggle around this issue.  One of the things that truly perplexed me was that up until this year, I’ve always earned more money doing soul-less sales work than authentic work, inspired by my own guidance.   It just didn’t seem right.

I thought that making authentic choices was enough to get the money flowing.   It should be that simple and it is but only after you commit, stay focused and act to create your one main thing, your true calling.

I didn’t do that.   I compromised my dreams.    I tried to hedge my bets.  I listened to too many others who thought their way would work for me.   This all resulted in business building that was a little bit safer and a whole lot smaller than I could have created.  Can you relate?

True calling is such an intensely personal experience.   A true calling business champions individual expression like no other enterprise because a true calling business is constructed in order to leverage authentic individuality.

I’m there now, in the Promised Land of Right Livelihood and it’s glorious but a bit lonely.   I want you here with me.   I struggled with earning enough money from doing what I wanted to do for years.   But I stubbornly kept at it because even in my under-earning  – I valued my freedom more than anything.

Stay stubborn on that one, will you?  Please don’t quit; we need your deep gladness.

I’m thinking deeply about you right now and I asked this question.   What did I ultimately come to know and understand about authentic potentiality  that you may not yet be aware of?

Because even though our individuality is authentically distinct, I understand that there are certain points of knowing that all great women and men come to see.

The process of transformation like all authentic adventure is a journey into the unknown.   August Turak

Of course it’s an adventurous into the unknown.  If you already knew your truest of callings you’d be living it and enjoying the abundant rewards for serving.

But you’ve hung in there as well, haven’t you?  There’s a wise and loving part of you who knows that much more life is possible for you.

I sense since you’re still reading that you may be ready to accept some truths that you may not quite see.  You may be ready to accept what I know with certainty about you and your calling.

No kidding, your life will change today if you fully accept what you are about to hear.  Your life will change even faster if you act on that sacred acceptance.

Please share in the comments which knowing inspired you the most?  Feel free to ask how I know them to be true for you.   Pay particular attention to those that you resist accepting.

Most importantly, if you accept these knowings, could  join us in Pittsburgh on Jan. 2  for the Big Link Rally and have yet to commit, what else are you waiting  for?

Know This

I understand that your fear around the responsibility of actually following a true calling. I’ve felt that fear and it shifts once you recognize your power for good.

Some of you fear your capacity to follow through and succeed. Some of you question if you’re wise enough or strong enough to make a difference.

Some of you are skeptical that such a thing as a true calling even exists for you. As a skeptic, are you afraid of your power so you deny the existence of something as sacred as a personal vocation?

Really, what’s your excuse? Do you want to believe in the existence of a true calling for you?

Have you been hiding from your power? Have you been running from it? Really, there is nothing to fear.

There is nothing to fear because the power isn’t within your calling. The power is within you.

I’ve been doing a lot of deep thinking around the essence of my work. I’ve been really digging into the core quality that fulfilled clients feel from working with me.

I want as many folks as possible to work and live their true callings because of the compounding nature of calling. True calling is the most powerful gift that keeps on giving.

What could be better than experiencing people who are wild about their work all day long? But also by working a calling we become wealthier and increase our capacity and generosity in direct service to others.

But let’s not talk about them. Let’s talk about you.

How confident are you of your true power?

I’m talking about your basic human power of creation. The power that allows you to create the life you most want to live.

Here’s what I’ve come to understand about the dynamic value of my work.

1). I inspire personal recognition of your own powerful core self.

2). I provide guidance to the clarity of your personal true calling.

3). As a result of the above recognitions you boldly express authentically, in service to others and that creates the value that others pay for.

Please notice the order of the progression.

Please understand that before prosperity comes clarity of calling and before clarity of calling comes recognition of power.

Money is a by-product of enthusiastic, authentic expression.

Expressing authentically in every way is your true calling. But before that expression stands a chance of being heard it must be identified by you and presented well so that others will see it as something they want.

But even all that isn’t enough if you don’t first step into your place of power and accept the responsibility to serve that comes with that freedom.

You can’t step into your power without being aware that you have it. Your awareness comes from recognizing, realizing and remembering that you have a capacity for greatness.

That capacity was meant to serve you and serve those whom you serve and it does no one any good if you do not fully exercise it. By recognizing your power you fulfill your sacred covenant represented by the gift of your individuality.

I know you’re afraid. We are all afraid at the point of our power, especially when we begin to grasp the enormity of our reach and the thousands of people we can positively influence.

But I’m here to tell you that the fear shifts once you commit to serving through the vehicle of your true calling.

Fear shifts when you first recognize your power and ask to remember all the good that was meant for you and for those you most want to serve.

Are true callings really found? Finding implies the action of searching as if an already existing true calling is waiting to be found.

But what if determining your true calling was more effectively invited than found?  What action would inspire a calling to reveal itself?  Or is it initially less doing and more being a certain way that brings a calling forth?

In my next post I’ll share more detail of what participants at the Big Link Rally in Pittsburgh on January 2 will be doing.  But inspired doing comes first from aligned being.

Our main objective is to reconnect the natural link between authenticity (expressed true calling) and abundance.  I have come to believe that without being a certain way one has to struggle unnecessarily in the physical-action-doing realm.

This is a powerful focusing question.  How do I want to be while I’m in the midst of bringing my calling forth?

These being qualities are conducive to finding and validating your true calling.

1). Be powerfully present in dialogue with your conscious self.

2). Be open and receptive to new ways of seeing themes and connections.

3). Be courageous enough to accept what is, both now and once your calling arrives.

4). Be carefree, natural and confidently expectant of your true calling’s arrival.

5). Be unconditionally supportive of yourself and others.

6). Be respectful of the sacred nature of calling.

7). Be connected at a heart level with others who hold the same intention.

8). Be willing to trust exercises and processes designed for insight creation.

9). Be authentically individual especially in the face of social conformity.

Let’s talk about this.  Which of these nine qualities come natural to you and which do you want to become more aware of as you welcome your true calling?