Quit Fighting Your Authentic Self
Do you resist being who you are? In what way do you resist?
Resistance is everything less than fully accepting the core truth of who you are. Resistance is running away from, complaining about, avoiding decisions on and doubting your own authentic destiny.
There is a deep and narrow truth about who you are and what you’re capable of. But there is also a more familiar, conditioned “truth” (lies) others have told you that you’ve accepted about yourself.
Admit it. Deep down you know one from the other. Standing tall and speaking in your own name is powerfully freeing.
I’m inviting you to join authentic friends around the world who believe in prosperity through authenticity here at this page. It’s free and it will encourage your authentic self to come out more.
Free yourself. What you resist persists.
Confusion is resistance. Procrastination is resistance. Perfectionism is resistance. All of these excuses are too weak for your strong fearless self to even believe.
Resistance by definition is self-sabotage. We can navigate by Resistance, letting it guide us to that calling or action that we must follow before all others. Rule of thumb: The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it. Steven Pressfield, The War of Art
So my authentic friend, where are you really fighting yourself?
I know, it takes lots of courage to follow your path. Heck it takes courage just to admit that you have one true path that calls you above all others.
So what. You’ve been brave before. You can do it again. Resisting is a weak and shallow exercise in self-pity. You’re stronger than that.
Ask these questions and allow the answers to soak into your bones.
Exactly where am I resisting my true self?
What scares me the most about going for my unfulfilled dreams?
Where do I create the greatest amount of self-suffering?
What great things have I always believed about myself but have yet to act on?
Your answers will lead to clarity of calling and path.
The path of your calling reveals itself more readily when you embrace your boldness. The path of your calling reveals itself when you listen to your own authentic voice and act on it.
It takes a lot of balls to create something new and different. It takes even more balls to follow-through all the way to completion authentically. But really, what choice do you have? It’s your path and no one else can follow it like you can.
Being who we are and doing what we can do is the essence of authenticity. Kim George
When you are not being who you are and doing what you can do, you have fallen deeply into the deadly trap of resistance. Free yourself today.
You may have been settling for less than fulfilling, abundant, work for so long, that you’ve forgotten the way back to your authentic self.
I know the way and its my mission and honor to guide you there.
Embrace your authentic boldness. Join us for this courageous workshop of self-discovery and evolution on January 2 in Pittsburgh. Come back to your fearless self. She’s waiting to show you the way.
I’ve decided to offer some partial scholarships based on real need and authenticity. If you really want to join us, do not use the lack of money as an excuse. Your bold presence is far more important to me than your money. Send me an email requesting consideration. Be fearless.
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After years of personal struggle and work with hundreds of coaching clients, I've come to understand that identifying one's true calling is primarily a spiritual process. Regardless of individual religious beliefs, this process must be approached with the reverence and respect that it deserves. 
Hey Tom,
I think one of the most common reasons we fight ourselves is because we don’t accept ourselves and we are trying to become somebody else. Now, improving makes sense, but a lot of people go way beyond that and try to shift their entire personality. This doesn’t seem to work and can create a lot of internal tension.
Eduard
Eduard – Welcome! Yes hiding behind the mask and comparing ourselves to others are common causes of resistance. it can manifest in so many ways. I agree. We really don’t have to shift anything. Our core self is there waiting to be recognized. Being yourself is more than enough.
*smile* Hi, Tom. Love your prayer in the sidebar. Wonderful! In fact, I love all your forms of pep talk.
Like I said in FB, I know what I’m to do, know what the resulting “treasure” will be, and yet, in going through your questions, here, I can see that my procrastination and perfectionism are stalling tactics for the actual practice of doing something completely unlike anything I’ve ever done before—even the practice of practicing. That’s where my personal hiccup seems to lie. Oh, wow… I just wrote (and then deleted), “I’ve never had to practice anything before in my life.” But the minute I wrote that, I saw myself on the bicycle with training wheels, tying my shoelaces over and over, falling off my roller skates numerous times…
Just look how your questions help! I’m still that same “me,” just a bigger kid than before. So, with that, I’m going to try to find my own version of your manly parts and go practice. Thank you, Tom. *wink*
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Julie – You made my day. Don’t you just love it when folks actually read the questions in the post and respond to them?
Yes I’ve been pondering a post about practice because discovering a calling doesn’t mean our work is complete. here are often many adjustments, tweaks and practice points in between the outright mistakes. But at least when in action we are happily stumbling and groping our way forward.
Hi Tom,
I agree with 99.9%. My disagreement is that confusion isn’t always disagreement, sometimes it’s just a part of learning I think.
It’s your last question that is staying with me (What great things have I always believed about myself that I am yet to act on?) No immediate answer(s) occur to me, but the question is staying with me, so I’ll stay witht the question.
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Hello Tom…
Reading your post brings to mind the times in my life when I have lived, trying to be something less than my full “me.” I refer to it as “less,” because I think that anytime we are not fully ourselves, we are shortchanging our life and our experiences. There are many lessons I’ve learned, especially in the most recent five years, but probably the most important one is the lesson of honoring and being true to myself. I know it sounds cliche, but being being true to yourself is so undervalued. (And we all know the reason things become cliche is because they are so accurate that they have been oft repeated, right?) And I could not agree more that there is a definite and actual link between that honoring….being true to your core self…and, in turn, being able to have everything that you want. It’s exciting that you are turning that into the experience in January. Although I am unable to attend, I am thankful to be able to participate – in abstentia – through your blog, emails, and the Facebook page.
Thanks again,
Clem
Evan – I agree with you, many times concepts like confusion aren’t absolutes. There are always exceptions. Yet if confusion is used as an excuse to not getting started it’s often simply resistance. Glad that question spoke to you. We can always uncover another brighter, stronger side of ourselves. The journey never ends and that’s a very good thing.
Clem – Good point about cliche. I don’t even worry anymore if something is overused; if it fits for me I use it. That’s all part of speaking in your own name. It’s been an honor to witness the growth of your full, true self over these last few years. Keep at it you’re on a wonderful roll and things can only get better by continuing to embrace your authentic self.
Hi Tom – I’ve been confronting my authentic self recently. Mind you, I’ve been reading your blogs for a long time, so I had to get round to it eventually.
And now I want to do more and ask myself some of the questions you mentioned. But I can’t make it to the States in January. Will you be holding any more events later in the year?
Cath – Good for you. Yes we can’t ignore that more powerful inner self that keeps calling and asking for more authentic expression. Have you downloaded the True Calling guidebook? That’s a great start. My next event you will be able to make because it’s a virtual one and it will be in the spring. I’ll be sure to let you know when.
You know Tom, I have been considering and sharing with others for the past couple years about embracing the whole you, including what is considered the “dark side.” Somehow, as humans we have this need to declare what is “right” and what is “wrong” – of course this decision coming from our own perspective. Because we tend to deem the “dark” side as “wrong” we try to hide it from others, and deny it to ourselves. I find that what you are suggesting in your writings allows a person to BE. The good, the the bad and the ugly. In doing so, we bring ourselves into authentic light and have a chance to witness the real picture, not the suspicious ideas haunting us in the shadows. Thank you for continually reminding us, we rock.
Harmony – Yes the delicious dark side, how I love to linger there sometimes. You’re spot on. It’s all me both light and dark good and somewhat less than good. I was just reading this morning about how the swiftest path to getting what we want is by accepting and feeling the many dark feelings that come up form not having it. To greater living – all of it! Your comment honors us.
Great post, Tom. I am giving some hard thought to your last question – well, to all of them, but the last one in particular.
I would just like to add to yours and Harmony’s comments about the ‘dark side’. I am really trying to embrace & accept the whole, and refuse to acknowledge the ‘dark side’ as anything except another facet of the whole. This is because the act of labelling it the ‘dark’ side has negative implications in our minds – it is JUDGMENT – which is a form of resistance. No more labelling! LOL!
Blessings,
Keena
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That is very well said Keena – the whole process is so subjective and in being so, is limited to only our perceptions of light and dark. Thank you for your insight.
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Keena & Harmony – Yeah I can see both sides of this perhaps because you’re both Canadian?
Actually some see dark as judgmental and some see it as rascalish and mysterious. I do agree that it’s all us and all good but your label that sparks resistance in you might not even register any emotional charge in me.