Comments on: Quit Fighting Your Authentic Self

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:57:49 +0000

Keena & Harmony – Yeah I can see both sides of this perhaps because you’re both Canadian? Actually some see dark as judgmental and some see it as rascalish and mysterious. I do agree that it’s all us and all good but your label that sparks resistance in you might not even register any emotional charge in me.

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By: Harmony

Harmony — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:56:40 +0000

That is very well said Keena – the whole process is so subjective and in being so, is limited to only our perceptions of light and dark. Thank you for your insight.
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By: Keena

Keena — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 20:14:32 +0000

Great post, Tom. I am giving some hard thought to your last question – well, to all of them, but the last one in particular.

I would just like to add to yours and Harmony’s comments about the ‘dark side’. I am really trying to embrace & accept the whole, and refuse to acknowledge the ‘dark side’ as anything except another facet of the whole. This is because the act of labelling it the ‘dark’ side has negative implications in our minds – it is JUDGMENT – which is a form of resistance. No more labelling! LOL!

Blessings,
Keena
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By: Tom

Tom — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:38:28 +0000

Harmony – Yes the delicious dark side, how I love to linger there sometimes. You’re spot on. It’s all me both light and dark good and somewhat less than good. I was just reading this morning about how the swiftest path to getting what we want is by accepting and feeling the many dark feelings that come up form not having it. To greater living – all of it! Your comment honors us.

By: Harmony

Harmony — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:02:42 +0000

You know Tom, I have been considering and sharing with others for the past couple years about embracing the whole you, including what is considered the “dark side.” Somehow, as humans we have this need to declare what is “right” and what is “wrong” – of course this decision coming from our own perspective. Because we tend to deem the “dark” side as “wrong” we try to hide it from others, and deny it to ourselves. I find that what you are suggesting in your writings allows a person to BE. The good, the the bad and the ugly. In doing so, we bring ourselves into authentic light and have a chance to witness the real picture, not the suspicious ideas haunting us in the shadows. Thank you for continually reminding us, we rock.

By: Tom

Tom — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:51:52 +0000

Cath – Good for you. Yes we can’t ignore that more powerful inner self that keeps calling and asking for more authentic expression. Have you downloaded the True Calling guidebook? That’s a great start. My next event you will be able to make because it’s a virtual one and it will be in the spring. I’ll be sure to let you know when.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:31:28 +0000

Hi Tom – I’ve been confronting my authentic self recently. Mind you, I’ve been reading your blogs for a long time, so I had to get round to it eventually.

And now I want to do more and ask myself some of the questions you mentioned. But I can’t make it to the States in January. Will you be holding any more events later in the year?

By: Tom

Tom — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:05:02 +0000

Evan – I agree with you, many times concepts like confusion aren’t absolutes. There are always exceptions. Yet if confusion is used as an excuse to not getting started it’s often simply resistance. Glad that question spoke to you. We can always uncover another brighter, stronger side of ourselves. The journey never ends and that’s a very good thing.

Clem – Good point about cliche. I don’t even worry anymore if something is overused; if it fits for me I use it. That’s all part of speaking in your own name. It’s been an honor to witness the growth of your full, true self over these last few years. Keep at it you’re on a wonderful roll and things can only get better by continuing to embrace your authentic self.

By: Clem Gigliotti

Clem Gigliotti — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:26:35 +0000

Hello Tom…

Reading your post brings to mind the times in my life when I have lived, trying to be something less than my full “me.” I refer to it as “less,” because I think that anytime we are not fully ourselves, we are shortchanging our life and our experiences. There are many lessons I’ve learned, especially in the most recent five years, but probably the most important one is the lesson of honoring and being true to myself. I know it sounds cliche, but being being true to yourself is so undervalued. (And we all know the reason things become cliche is because they are so accurate that they have been oft repeated, right?) And I could not agree more that there is a definite and actual link between that honoring….being true to your core self…and, in turn, being able to have everything that you want. It’s exciting that you are turning that into the experience in January. Although I am unable to attend, I am thankful to be able to participate – in abstentia – through your blog, emails, and the Facebook page.

Thanks again,
Clem